Category: Blog
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Gone but not gone – Ambiguous loss
There’s a saying in therapy, that the large majority of the work we do with clients revolves around grief. Grief for someone who dies, a relationship that didn’t work out, a career that failed etc. But I also regularly come across a grief that remains hard to resolve. A loss that is and isn’t an…
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Attachment styles- an introduction
Attachment theory is a key aspect of psychotherapy work, and one which I often consider with my clients, so I thought this month I would cover some of the basic features. I find knowing our style of attachment especially in close relationships to be invaluable in helping to build and maintain strong connections with others. …
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My 2026 Summer reading
The sun is shining and the temperatures here in the UK have been rising (pass me the fan and a cold drink please)! So, it’s that time of year where I review some of the books that have been keeping me company (not cool alas) this Summer. I hope they inspire! Love’s Labour by Stephen…
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Strangers on a train
I thought this month I would share with you an experience I had recently, whilst travelling by rail, and talk through the possible psychological meaning behind it. So, I am about to board a train for a short shuttle ride. The train before mine heading into the big smoke that is London, had been delayed…
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Out of sight. Out of mind.
“I’m waiting for a friend to come, to help me off the groundBetter come sooner than later, can’t stop feeling down……If you’re thinking of me, you’ve got to let me know‘Cause loneliness seems such a waste, I can’t stop feeling low.” Dodgy – If you’re thinking of me lyrics- 1993 I wanted this month to…
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Understanding indecision
“More is lost by indecision than wrong decision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity” Marcus Tullius Cicero (Roman philosopher) I had the strangest experience when it came to writing my blog this month. I just couldn’t decide what to focus on. I love writing my monthly ponderings and so it came as a shock when…
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Dealing with disappointment
“If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.” Henry David Thoreau We somehow find us ourselves at the start of another year (is it just me or has time sped up)? And for many of us, we’ll be experiencing a fair bit of disappointment this month. Whether it’s…
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Emotional eating -a little morsel (part 2)
“The way we feel about ourselves, will influence how we feed ourselves” Linda Cundy, attachment psychotherapist. Welcome back folks to my second little bite into the topic of emotional eating. Last month I covered the what and the why and so this month I want to cover how we can manage our cravings for food…
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Emotional eating- a little morsel (part 1)
“Eating patterns are directly connected with emotional issues arising both from childhood and from current stresses” Gabor Mate Our relationship with food begins from the very start of our life. Afterall we can’t survive without nourishment. Food quickly becomes entwinned with our caregivers and early life experiences. Psychotherapist, Julia Samuel describes food as the one…
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My 2025 Summer reading
Hello all! It’s that time when I delve into my ever-growing personal library and review four books which I hope you might also enjoy. Hour of the Heart by Irvin Yalom Irvin Yalom the prolific writer/existential psychotherapist is now in his mid 90’s, with his memory fading fast he decides on a dramatic approach to…
